A view about manhood

       I've been looking at how a man relates to his work and also how he relates at home. One question that is asked of men (usually), when meeting another man is " What do you do?"      I usually ask this question but the greater question could be why do you do what you do. The following verses focus on the reason for working. It doesn't matter if you're a CEO of a large corporation surrounded by many people, a cook in a restaurant working with other cooks, a truck driver spending much of your time on the road, or a person out looking for a job.      What we "do" also is what we do in our spare time. I've found that hobbies can be hard work as well. I really enjoy camping. There is much preparation and work that go into camping. If you don't plan a camping trip well, it can take away from the ultimate enjoyment latter.       Another thing we do is "live" with our family and sometimes that is work as well. Whether it...

       Conflict is something that every relationship will experience. How we respond to this difference of opinion can have an effect on our future. We all have natural instincts that govern how we react to certain situations.       For one it might be to avoid, or run away from conflict. Another may be inclined to fight- and fight to win at any expense. Both reactions can lead to further problems. First instead of fleeing, face the conflict. Next instead of fighting to win, use the conflict to come to a resolution- fight for what is right. Talk through the situation to solve the problem. Working toward a resolution will require compromise, forgiveness, and an understanding from the other parties viewpoint.       Going into a conflict situation with our natural tendencies will only cause a wider divide between both sides. My wife and I are alike in some ways we handle conflict and totally different in other ways. We are in agre...

        We have been looking at how much different men and women are. One vast difference is how we look at things and process information. When my wife and I were first married (and my years prior to that) I assumed women saw life as the same way I did. In careful observation and research I quickly found that this wasn't the case. She can be running around with her mind on a thousand different things at once. I on the other hand focus on one thing, get it done, and move on to the next thing. As we, as men mature, understand this difference it can make our marriages stronger. As we embrace our strengths and roles in a marriage, our marriages grow stronger and we grow as individuals. To say things like “ He doesn't understand me” or “She doesn't see things my way” are natural statements. It takes work and effort to not only see these differences but to also appreciate them.      God has made us to compliment each other. My wife and I see things dif...

     There are many different ways that a man can be a servant leader. The following all involve these concepts- rejecting passivity, accepting responsibility, leading courageously, and expecting a greater reward. The different ways of being a servant leader uses the following action words: includes, accepts, is willing, discusses, seeks, anticipates, provides, deals with, initiates, plans, manages, keeps, honors, explains, encourages, and joins.           A servant leader takes notice of the present and considers the future of his family or loved ones. He considers the physical future on this earth and the future beyond death. It is never too late to start leading your family from a servants perspective. It takes planning and a humble spirit. It can be accomplished one step at a time, one point at a time.       Looking at all the things to do as a servant leader as a list can be overwhelming, Servant leadership can be sta...