Marital Conflict

     Conflict is something that every relationship will experience. How we respond to this difference of opinion can have an effect on our future. We all have natural instincts that govern how we react to certain situations. 

    For one it might be to avoid, or run away from conflict. Another may be inclined to fight- and fight to win at any expense. Both reactions can lead to further problems. First instead of fleeing, face the conflict. Next instead of fighting to win, use the conflict to come to a resolution- fight for what is right. Talk through the situation to solve the problem. Working toward a resolution will require compromise, forgiveness, and an understanding from the other parties viewpoint. 

    Going into a conflict situation with our natural tendencies will only cause a wider divide between both sides. My wife and I are alike in some ways we handle conflict and totally different in other ways. We are in agreement not to let problems escalate and let little problems turn into massive problems, but to work to resolve problems in a timely manner. In working through these conflicts, we have grown closer.

    We have attended a few Weekends To Remember from Family Life Ministry. One statement from those weekends has stuck with me and I have repeated it many times over the years: She is not the enemy.

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