He's not here

 Facing the father wound involves looking in two directions. The first is looking to the past to look at wounds that happened as sons in the past. Discovering these wounds can help us understand who we are and why we're that way and to recover from these wounds. There is power in the past. We can either be bound up by it or to use that power for good. Without understanding these past wounds we are doomed to repeat them. Another benefit of this is to avoid inflicting these same wounds in the future. This is looking in the direction from a father's point of view. With the absence of fathers in a household these wounds today are happening at an accelerated pace. Sons (and daughters) need their fathers.

Part of the journey in becoming a authentic man is to close the gap between generations and be there as dads for our children. That involves taking steps to be involved in our children's lives. Don't be a passive observer- be an active participant. A first step in that direction is needed. Any small step is better than none at all. As sons we need to close that gap with our fathers, this too involves taking that first step. If one man takes this step we will have a better country. If 10% of the men take this step, our country will greatly be changed for the better. Our children, grand children, and our great grand children will be better off for it.

And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.- Deuteronomy 6:6-7