A view about manhood

       I have been reminded over the course of the last couple of days how important my role as a husband is. It is important to me, it is important to God, and it is important to my wife. The job description as a husband is somewhat simple yet complex and difficult to carry out. I'm not here to make excuses for we husbands that fail in this role. We all fall short but need to improve as we move forward in our lives. I been reminded because people near to me are struggling in their marriages and these people have to make difficult decisions concerning their lives. Decisions that effect not only the couples, but the children God has entrusted to them, the extended families around them, their close friends and even casual friends. My heart aches for these people.      I'm also aware of the fact that I fail in my own marriage and need to remember that part of this job description is to lead. I do fail because I'm not sure of where I'm going part of the time myself and ther

       As I move into the age which most men think about retirement, I'm thinking about that next step in my life. The American in me says quit working and enjoy the rest of your life. The thought of having no purpose other than improving my golf game scares me. I could be content to set back and retire. But I know that content, purpose, and retirement are terms that don't belong in the same sentence. The Christian in me wants to know what I can do next. I would like to think I've made a positive difference in many people's lives. And that would be a good thing. But what if there's something out there that is better- or greater. Do I step up or step back? I know that God has directed the steps I've taken in life. He has let me falter but always provided a better way. At this point in my life (63 years old) I have many decisions to make concerning my (and my wife's) future. Almost exactly 7 years ago I asked God to show me anything I was missing in ways I cou

       Western culture has radically changed in the past twenty to thirty years. The number of people that believe in absolutes has dwindled. The battle between good and evil continues on, but if you listen to society the good side is on its way to defeat. This has an effect on how we see the culture. Television news is a business and newscasts are rewarded monetarily by higher ratings. Bad news brings higher ratings. We sometimes forget about the good things in our culture.      We must also remember that our personal opinions do not always represent good. There are some types of music that I don’t prefer. That doesn’t necessarily mean that God and I have the same preferences. When we sing hymns at church I always look at the bottom of the page to look at the date it was written. I have a tendency to think these hymns have been around forever. I sometimes think that these hymns are more pleasing to God than some other current music. By looking at the date written, it makes me think ba

       A few years ago I had an idea of different things I wanted to accomplish in my life. I saw myself moving forward in what I did in my local church. I saw myself moving away from my responsibilities at my "day" job. I made a comment to my pastor that if I was 5 years older I could be in a position to retire and would have more time to devote in working at the church. I have asked God for direction in this matter. I have asked God to give me something I could manage. I have always been a person that struggles with patience. During this time I have struggled with discouragement. I thought I had a clear path of what God wanted my to do and a direction He wanted me to move in preparation for what lied ahead of me.       The first step would be freeing up time in my job to transfer the time spent to working at the church. I passively started looking for a job that would allow me to work toward this goal. The jobs I saw available would cause a location change which would not b

       1 Corinthians 16:13 has been on my radar for many years now.       I try to pay attention to the people around me. I try to be aware of their needs or any dangers around them. Then do what I can to help the situation. Many times I don't know what to do and sometimes it may be best not to do anything- or to put off doing something until later.       Next is to stand firm in my faith and not let any worldly influences alter what I'm doing- this is easier said than done. Many times I'm motivated by what "man wants" and not doing what God would want me to do. Standing firm in the faith requires me to do exactly what God wants me to do or react exactly as God would have me do- this is usually more difficult because of the worldly influence around me. And the worldly influence is not only outside the church.       When you pull out the next words-act like men and be strong- without having any context to base it on, it takes on an entirely different idea than what

       Have you ever thought about how much your wife is worth to you? The value of a wife is hard to measure. There is so much about a wife that goes beyond any monetary measure, beyond any measure of time. I don't comprehend the value of such a woman to a man as myself. I would not want to think about where I would be without my wife. She does so much for me. We have been married a little over 28 years and knew each other less than 2 years before that. A question comes to mind, how long would I be willing to wait for such a women knowing what I know now? And a second question, how long as a younger man without the wisdom of the years lived?      In the Bible, Genesis chapter 29 there is a story of a man that understands the value of a good wife. Jacob first met Rachel and wanted her to be his wife so much that he volunteered to work for her father for 7 years in order to take her as his wife. He understood this value. One problem that came up was she had an older sister and the c